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The Next Big Thing Blog Hop!

One of my good friends Darcy Scott – who is an awesome writer – tagged me in a blog hop called “The Next Big Thing,” and since I love to write about my writing, and I love to play “Twenty Questions,” here are the answers to the Big Questions posed by The Next Big Thing.

What is the title of your book?
The Box of Daughter: Healing the Authentic Self. The subtitle of the first edition was “Overcoming a Legacy of Emotional Abuse.”

Where did the idea come from for the book?
The inspiration for the title came from a poem I wrote in 1999 called “The Box of Daughter,” and described my unsuccessful efforts to extricate myself from “Spider Love” in my dysfunctional family – a situation which caused me to grow up feeling like I lived in a box labeled “daughter.”

What genre does your book fall under?
Creative nonfiction – memoir, to be specific. And it’s all true!

Which actors would you choose to play your characters in a movie rendition?
If Joan Crawford were still alive, she would play my mother well. Joan Collins would also be interesting. And I would love to see George Clooney play my father, but I don’t know if the role of a quiet, obsessive, angry religious man would appeal to him. I would just like to see how he might play the role. I think Jodie Foster would do an excellent job of playing me as an adult.

What is the one-sentence synopsis of your book?
The Box of Daughter describes the author’s quest to overcome an emotionally abusive childhood, reclaim her authentic self, and create a life that is truly her own.

Was your book self-published or represented by an agency?
It was self-published – came out just about a year ago now. And that's another whole topic – what an adventure!

How long did it take you to write the first draft of your manuscript?
It took a year to write the first draft, and two years to rewrite it so it wasn’t just one big complaint. Apparently the time and effort was worth it, because the book has won a couple of awards.

What other books would you compare this story to within your genre?
Jeannette Walls’ The Glass Castle, Meredith Hall’s Without a Map – any memoir about a devastating experience that required getting back on one’s feet and finding a new way to live.

Who or what inspired you to write this book?
This is an odd answer, but what inspired me to write it was my own pain – it was very cathartic – and the knowledge that countless others had gone through the same experience, and needed validation. So many people think it only happens in their family, and that all other families are loving.

What else about your book might pique the reader's interest?
I’ve been told by many readers, “I can’t believe you wrote my life!” I think these kinds of experiences are extremely common in our generation. And I’m sure that the story of caregiving for my critical, belittling parents will strike a chord with many, many caregivers.

And how about tagging a few awesome authors you think readers will LOVE…

Jacqueline Sheehan:
Jewel Beth Davis:
Carla Neggers:
Amy Wood, Psy.D.:
Chuck Galle:

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And check out Darcy’s website. It’s great!

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